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In 2018, Dan was riding high. He was a network news anchor in USwho had published a bestselling memoir about how an on-air panic attack had led him to meditation. But then he signed up for something called a "360 review," an anonymous survey of the people in his personal and professional lives.

He wanted tough feedback, but he had no idea how tough it would be. Friends, family, and colleagues described him as self-centered, high-handed, short-tempered, and dismissive. The report was so bad that his wife, who was reading alongside him, got up from the table and cried.

It was the worst day of his life. But it also provoked him to launch a feverish investigation that ultimately led him to the last place he would've expected- self-love.

Even after years of meditation, Dan was still pushing himself too hard, engaged in the kind of optimization, hyper-productivity, and social comparison that is all too common these days. Many of us believe that we need a harsh inner critic in order to get anything done.

Further, science suggests it is possible to rewire how you talk to yourself, which unlocks an upward spiral of benefits. Self-love reduces anxiety, regulates your nervous system, and makes you more likely to reach your goals. Crucially, it also improves your relationships with other people, which is the key variable for health and happiness.

What to call this process? To use a loaded term... love. Not just romantic love, but your relationships with everyone in your life, including yourself. It's not weak, it's not selfish, it prepares you to engage more effectively in a world on fire. And the radical good news is that love is skill. If Dan can learn it, so can you.